Building confidence can feel impossible sometimes, especially for those of us existing in bigger bodies. It’s hard to feel good about yourself when the world (and the diet industry—but that’s a topic for another day) tells us we have to look a certain way or fit a certain mold. But here’s the thing: confidence doesn’t come from external validation. It starts from within, rooted in genuine self-love. As the great Lucille Ball wisely put it, “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
Why Self-Love Fuels Confidence
Self-love is all about embracing who you are—flaws, quirks…rolls and all. When we love ourselves completely just as we are, confidence shows up naturally. It’s like when you know you’re with a friend who truly gets you; suddenly, you can just be yourself without needing approval. Self-love is about becoming that friend for yourself.
Real-Life Tips for Building Confidence Through Self-Love
1. Be your own hype man!
Talk to yourself like you would a friend! Remind yourself frequently that you’re enough–just as you are! Try phrases like “I am worthy” or “I’m proud of who I am.” It may feel silly at first, but over time, these affirmations become a powerful habit.
2. Set those boundaries baby!!
Confidence comes from honoring our own needs and saying "no" to things that don’t align. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you’re being rude; it means you’re protecting your energy. Start small and notice how much stronger you feel every time you respect your own limits.
3. Ditch Comparisons and Embrace Yourself
Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing! I know it’s hard but remember, “comparison is the thief of joy!” Whether you’re on the yoga mat, work, school or whatever, try to stay focused on your own journey. Let go of the idea that you have to look or act a certain way and celebrate where you’re at today and the progress that’s unique to you.
Living with Confidence and Self-Love
Confidence isn’t something that magically appears one day. It’s something we build by showing up for ourselves, day after day. When we lead with self-love, we start seeing ourselves differently, and that shines through in everything we do. Give yourself the same kindness and care you’d give your closest friend, and watch how confidence starts showing up in your life.
Here’s to loving ourselves a little more every day!
Kristina
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